Before I start, I just want to express my gratitude to everyone who has given support to #DaddyDiaries by reading and/or commenting on our posts (and via Facebook), tweeting/retweeting any links we put up and spreading the word about this brilliant notion. We can’t thank you enough! And obviously we thank G.R.E.Ed.S for coming up with the idea and for giving us the online vehicle to have our voices heard! #Grateful
Now back to Daddy Kam! Lol!
So my baby daughter Lily has been in this world for nearly 3 weeks now, and these weeks have been a test of my patience and calm resolve, but have also brought unadulterated joy and a new found love for my wife and child.
Our new family is so blessed! We’ve been inundated with visiting requests and gifts from friends and family. I was overwhelmed by the amount of support, well-wishes and congratulations that I received from people when telling everyone about the birth! I’ve had question upon question on a daily basis asking about how Lily/mother/father are doing/developing at this special time! The amount of times I’ve had to repeat myself to different people is unreal, and I haven’t even mentioned the Skype calls! LOL! It’s been crazy! Must be even worse for celebrities I suppose haha! I suppose I have to get used to it eh! 😉
To tell the truth, Lily has had all her check-ups so far and passed them with flying colours and like the cute stunner she is, she has made everyone who has seen her fall in love with her! I like to think she got that from me because my cute dimples won over my wife on our first meeting! *winks* So technically, we’re doing exceptionally well as first-time parents and we’re both incredibly proud of ourselves.
Every time I look at her, I see love in her eyes and love in how she was made. God has blessed us. She’s so active and has already started cooing, rolling on her side, and knows how to use those arms and legs to push away me when crying! Simply hilarious and impressive!
However, it has forced me into a massive change in overhauling my own flaws (or at least they’re being really magnified). I’ve had to become more patient, calmer, less frustrated, more supportive and less short-tempered/snappy! Oh and all this while being woken up sometimes at night/early in the morning before work. Has this worked though? At times, yes! Sometimes, no! Being ratty sometimes doesn’t help! I’ve snapped at my mom in law, my wife and my child. Does this make me a bad person? NO! It makes me a stressed, 24-hr 7 days a week, frustrated, under-pressure, brain always working on something, trying to please everyone kind of father. Arguments seem to be bigger than ever because we have a baby, when baby cries and it’s something we don’t know how to deal with AND we’re tired – it seems like we’re failures! But guess what! We won’t know it all! When the going gets tough, you can’t run away! I feel too many dads are doing that after the baby is born! Too much hard work!
Like any other human being, when I’m on the ball – I’m great! When I’m not, I get disappointed in myself. But I’m not perfect and as a first-time parent, this and several other experiences will be new and I’m bound to make mistakes! I’m currently trying to make my mind accept that now!
But would I change this for the world? NO! Of course I wouldn’t! I’ve always wanted to be a dad and to have the blessing that is Lily being the pinnacle of this new family that my wife and I are building can’t be explained in words. It’s truly amazing! God has our backs and He’s moulding me into the best father I can be!
Here’s a toast to Lily, my wife, my mom in law, the Assadi family and God – we’re doing so well! Let’s keep it up and give Lily the best start in life!